Today’s thorn in my side, only marginally related to knitting: What do you do when you get invited to a special event in someone’s life, and you haven’t been in touch with that person for years? And even when you knew them, you weren’t even that close?
Last night I got a wedding invite from an old acquaintance, and it was so totally out-of-the-blue that I actually wondered for a second how this crazy woman had even found my address. I mean, if someone has to semi-stalk you to invite you to their wedding, isn’t that a little strange? My next thought was hey, if she doesn’t really know where I live, I have plausible deniability, right? Maybe I never even got the invitation. Am I the rudest person on the planet? Possibly.
I immediately called Mrs. J (actually, I opened the invite last night and since it was 11 pm on the East Coast and way past her bedtime, I had to stress out about it all night until this morning, when I called her on my way to work). She is a voice of reason in most situations, and was kind enough not express her horror at my juvenile suggestion that I should hide out and pretend I’d never gotten the invite. She pointed out that if I didn’t RSVP, there was a good chance that this warped bride might actually try to track me down by phone and then I’d have to have the awkward “Who is this? Who? Oh, sorry, no I can’t go to your wedding” conversation in person. Mrs. J is insisting that I send back the RSVP card with a polite “sorry we can’t make it” and — to really take the high-road — she suggested I send a small gift.
So you thought blaming it on the postal service was bad? Here’s where I really show my true crazy colors. I’m feeling a bit competitive (a bit? Ok, maybe freakishly, insanely competitive.) and I want to take the highest high-road possible. I know it’s perverse, but I think it’s fairly rude to send an invitation like this — something that makes the recipient of the invite feel so . . . icky. I mean, I don’t even know this person, and we haven’t spoken in years and years. I feel pretty strongly that I want knitting to be incorporated in some way into most of the gifts I give. Like the baby bonnet I just made for a co-worker, or the blue wedding shawl I made for Mrs. J’s wedding. Plus, if I have to send a gift, I want to knock it out of the park. So I’m thinking ok, a dishcloth? A spoon and a few knitted potholders? A bar of girly soap and a facecloth? Am I really thinking of spending precious knitting time on someone I barely know and sort of dislike?
Deep breaths . . . I just need to cowgirl up and try not to be so wierded-out by this whole mess of my own making. Have you ever heard someone so upset over getting invited to a near-stranger’s wedding? Sometimes I hate being a grown-up. Boo.